I woke up to a message: “Everything Hashem does is for the best.” Just moments later, I received the heartbreaking news: my dear friend Yankel’le (יעקב שלמה ישראל) Friedman had tragically passed away while doing what he loved, flying. The words of that message echoed in my mind as I struggled to comprehend the loss of someone so young and so remarkable. Despite the grief, I feel it’s essential to share a glimpse of the remarkable person Yankel’le was and inspire others to continue his legacy. A Legacy of a “Lev Tov” At the levaya in Eretz Yisrael, Yankel’le’s brother-in-law, R’ Chaim Horowitz, quoted the Mishnah in Pirkei Avos (2:9): “Rabban Yochanan ben Zakkai said to his students: Go and figure out which is the proper path to which a man should cling. Each student responded differently, a good eye, a good friend, a good neighbor, someone who considers the outcome of his actions. Then Rabbi Elazar ben Arach said: a lev tov (a good heart). Rabban Yochanan ben Zakkai replied: I see the merit of Elazar ben Arach’s words over your words, for included within his words are all of your words.” R’ Chaim explained that Yankel’le embodied the concept of a lev tov (a good heart). As Rabban Yochanan ben Zakkai pointed out, within a lev tov encompasses all other virtues: a lev tov includes having an ein tov (a good eye), being a good friend, a good neighbor, and considering the consequences of one’s actions. This means that someone with a lev tov excels not in just one character trait, but in all of them, allowing them to fulfill their mission in life more fully and swiftly. Yankel’le was always there for others, offering a listening ear to anyone in need. This was all the more remarkable given that he endured over 12 years of unimaginable yesurim (suffering) that no Jew should ever have to bear. R’ Chaim suggested that Hashem, in His infinite wisdom, took Yankel’le back at the age of 32 – the numerical value of lev – because his good heart had already completed its mission in this world. A Heartfelt Impact Every speaker at the levaya shared unique reflections on Yankel’le’s kindness and empathy. Despite his own immense suffering, Yankel’le was always there for others. He never judged anyone and would remind us: “You don’t know what someone else is going through. You just need to be there for them.” After the levaya, instead of heading home, people gathered, playing voice notes from Yankel’le. These recordings revealed how he truly shared in others’ struggles, even over seemingly small issues (like frustrations with apartment construction). While carrying his own heavy burdens, Yankel’le would listen as if he had no struggles of his own. These moments painted a vivid picture of Yankel’le’s profound impact, which was further illuminated through personal stories shared at the levaya & shiva. A Listening Ear and a Gentle Soul Yankel’le’s sensitivity extended to all areas of his life. As a bachur learning in Switzerland, he was not only a dedicated masmid but also someone who quietly cared for others. He would frequently ask his peers: “Can I make you a tea?”, a small gesture that spoke volumes about his thoughtfulness. One encounter, shared by a widow from Yerushalayim, beautifully illustrates […]
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